List of common boundary violations.

A LIST OF COMMON EVERYDAY BOUNDARY VIOLATIONS

EXTERNAL PHYSICAL VIOLATIONS

· Standing too close to a person without his/her permission.
· Touching a person without his/her permission.
· Getting into a person’s personal belongings and living space such as one’s purse, wallet, mail or closet.
· Listening to a person’s personal conversations or telephone conversations without his or her permission.
· Nor allowing a person to have privacy or violating a person’s right to privacy.
· Exposing others to physical illness due to your having a contagious disease.

SEXUAL BOUNDARY VIOLATIONS

· Touching a person sexually without his/her permission.
· Not negotiating when, where and how to engage in sexual activity.
· Demanding unsafe sexual practices.
· Leaving pornography where others who do not wish to, or should not see it, may see it.
· Exposing oneself to others without their consent.
· Staring or looking at another person lustily (voyeurism) without his/her permission.
· Exposing visually and/or auditorily others to your sexual activities without their consent.

INTERNAL BOUNDARY VIOLATIONS

· Yelling and screaming.
· Name-calling.
· Ridiculing a person.
· Lying.
· Breaking a commitment.
· Patronizing a person. (Better than message)
· Telling a person how he/she should be feeling.
· Telling a person what he/she should be, or are, thinking.
· Telling a person what he/she is motivated by.
· Being sarcastic.
· Shaming a person.